Picture one of these all too common scenes:

  • Despite your best efforts, you find yourself rushing and running late.   Sound familiar?  (Those of you who know me will know I’m a recovering late-aholic.)
  • First, the toilet  breaks, then the next thing, and then the next minor or major inconvenience annoys you.  You’re ready to tear your hear out.
  • You’re sick or someone you care about is sick and you’re struggling with feeling anxious in general and this just exacerbates it
  • You’ve got this nagging pain that is sometimes here and sometimes not in your back, that keeps you up at night, and you wonder about getting it checked out and by the time  morning comes, you’re so glad to get up and move around. . . but you’re exhausted and running on empty

Or, perhaps, you’d like to substitute some combination of the above – or something entirely different – that feels like it’s what’s true for you in your own life.  Right now.

I find that in order to savor the good parts of life, I choose to work with the things that aren’t working so well. Like anxiety – that doesn’t work too well for me UNLESS I work with it.  And the same thing is true  with physical pain.

If I try and run and hide from anxiety, it finds me anyway and keeps me down.  If I pretend my knee doesn’t hurt, it gets louder and more insistent on being acknowledged. Maybe that is true for you too.

So, when I find myself stressed out,, frustrated, resentful, angry, or depressed – I have a little bag of tricks that I use.

Most of these things take  under 10 seconds to do and, by doing them, I find that whatever has me twisted up somehow gets unkinked.  Even if it only gets un-kinked for 15 seconds, it’s enough room to start my juices flowing so I can create some space for my feelings so I don’t feel so overwhelmed.

I thank my mentors (and I won’t mention all of them because I may forget someone – but you know who you are!) who have lovingly introduced many of these things to me and encouraged me to practice them.  Without your support, I may still be tearing my hair out.

So without further ado . . . . here’s my bag of 10 second tricks to create a bit of space for you when the going gets tough. Choose any one or a combination of them or make up your own and see what happens the next time one of these frustrating situations makes you wanna scream.  I’ve used an asterisk bythe ones that are my very favorites!

  • Put your hands on your belly and breathe*
  • Grab a glass of water and drink it, imagining love and energy coming through it (yes, I know it sounds weird but it really works!!)*
  • Tilt your chin down and raise through the crown of your head
  • Feel your feet planted into the floor
  • Open your mouth wide, stick out your tongue and exhale
  • Stomp your feet
  • Turn on a piece of music and let your body move
  • Ask yourself what you’d love to do and even if you can’t do it, let yourself feel it and make a date with yourself later
  • Give yourself a hug
  • Make a cup of tea*
  • Write a few words about where you feel the tension in your body i.e. head throbbing, heart beating fast, shallow breath.  Let your attention go to all those places and let go of the reasons why*
  • Notice what’s right in front of you – use all your senses.  What do you see, hear, taste, touch and smell?
  • Lovingly apply hand lotion or moisturizer to yourself or someone you love
  • Find another person or animal to hug and talk to
  • Call, text, or email someone you love and tell them
  • Grab a hairbrush and gently stroke your own hair
  • Read a poem (I keep a book of them handy in office)
  • If you’re driving and you get stopped by a train or a red light, sink into your seat, relax your grip on the wheel and breathe – take a mini break.*

If you’re anything like me, when I’m triggered I don’t remember to do these things.  That’s where practice makes imperfect – I keep working with this stuff and I’m so amazed how the little-est shifts, like drinking a glass of water when I’ve had it up to here with whatever the drama du jour is, open the space in me for more goodness to flow in.

I invite you to choose one of these tools right now – no matter what is going on – and just notice what, if anything, happens for you when you try it.  And, since we all learn from each other, feel free to comment if you want.




2 Responses to “Simple Changes Make A Big Difference When The Drama Du Jour Strikes Again!”

  1. Billie Says:

    Wow that was strange. I just wrote an really long comment but after I clicked submit my comment didn’t show
    up. Grrrr… well I’m not writing all that over again.
    Anyways, just wanted to say wonderful blog!

  2. Char Says:

    Thank hyou so much. Sorry that your post was eaten – grring with you.


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